There’s a fine line between looking sexy and looking easy. And just when I think the world is catching on, I step out on a Saturday night for an evening out on the town to notice every girl walking into the casino is centimeters away from pulling a Lindsay Lohan and a Janet Jackson all at the same time. I then researched “how to look sexy” and I was appalled at how many links there were on “how to look slutty to get attention” instead. Ladies, ladies, ladies. I hate to sound like a man when I say this, but if this is how you choose to dress, you’ll have to accept the consequences of the negative attention and reactions you’ll be receiving after every corner you turn. But if REAL attraction is what you desire then you’re going to have to step up your game. Looking beautiful isn’t just pulling together a great outfit. It’s your demeanor and the way you carry yourself. It’s having class.
Now you may think I’m sitting here preaching, but…let’s face it. This is a very close subject to me, figuring I was raised in a city revolving around sex. This is actually half the reason why I decided to study clothing design in the first place. I’ve been fed up with women and young girls cutting themselves short to get some “attention” from some boys who aren’t even worth their time. But ladies, let me say one thing, when you look like you respect yourself, the rest will follow. And you’ll build a following of real people who admire you for your personality, your smarts, and your beauty. They’ll be attracted to YOU as a real woman, not an insecure young lady desperate for any attention. But as I stated before, it’s more than just your clothing, so here’s a list of just a few things to keep in mind when making that grand first impression, wherever you are.
CHEAP VS QUALITY-you don’t have to spend your entire paycheck to have quality clothing, but the choices in style, patterns, and fabric can make or break your outfit. Look for rich fabrics, stay away from stretchy garments, and look for more tailored pieces. They’ll give you the best possible shape, enhancing your goods and disguising your flaws.
THE 40% RULE-it’s all about the perfect balance between sexy and elegant and only showing 40% of your skin. This means, if you’re wearing a cute mini dress, make sure there is NO cleavage! Any skin showing on your upper half needs to be at a minimum. And vice versa, if you plan on wearing a low neckline, cover up your legs.
“Literally the sexiest thing is a girl that looks powerful. If you can cover up and still look sexy, that’s powerful!” –anonymous male friend
SKIRT LENGTH-I love knee length pencil skirts! They look sexy and classy! And you can pair them up with a delicate little top, or a fun tee and make it your own. Mini skirts can also look amazing, but only if done right. Even though it’s a mini, it should still extend a few inches past your butt girls. If you bend over and you have a clear shot of your hoo-haa…throw the skirt away. To pull these off nicely, wear them with a very modest top, or add a cardigan, but above all NO CLEAVAGE! Keep the makeup light and the hair simple. Ta Da!
MAKEUP-I more often than not stick to a more classic traditional look, but makeup can be a lot of fun. Just make sure you’re only highlighting one part of your face at a time. If you’re rockin’ a smoky eye, leave the cheeks and lips simple. Pulling a sexy red lip, keep the eyes more natural. NO Mimi’s please.
POSTURE-think back to the days in dance class when your instructor instilled in you the idea of a string pulling you up. I can’t keep up with how many girls I see walking around pushing their chest up, their butt out, and slouching or hunching. It looks unnatural and severely uncomfortable. All this does is stick your belly out. Not cute. So keep your head up, shoulders back, and walk with power knowing you have a purpose, whether it be to the grocery store, a nightclub, or even pumping gas.
NAILS-first, keep them clean. Unless you were just washing your car, there’s no excuse to have dirty black fingernails. Now you don’t need to get a manicure and pedicure every week but keep them nicely trimmed and if you paint them, keep it a fun solid color, none of these cutesy cupcake appliqués or sparkles. Do you want to look 9 years old, or do you want to look like a woman who knows where she’s going?
PROFANITY IS A NO NO!!!-If you want to be noticed as an educated beauty, every other word out of your mouth cannot be profane. This just shows your lack of maturity, and will guarantee that every man in the room will overlook you.
SPEAK ELOQUENTLY-Show him you’re a walking encyclopedia and you’ll have his attention for a lot more than a night. Speak about your passions, your interests, and respond in a mature manner. Don’t say “like” or “shut-up” 17 times per sentence. And don’t be afraid to ask questions about the topic of conversation when you’re out. Men appreciate when you admit your lack of knowledge on a specific subject. It shows you have a genuine interest, and you won’t sound ignorant when you open your mouth not knowing what your talking about.
LEARN TO ACCEPT A COMPLIMENT-when someone throws you a compliment or says you look beautiful, smile and politely say thank you. Many, many, many of my male friends absolutely loathe complimenting a girl and then getting the response “Eew, I look so disgusting tonight!” If they say it, they mean it. That means they noticed you put time into looking great for them. Show them you appreciate that they noticed.
DON’T GET DRUNK!!!-It’s perfectly ok to have a glass or two during the evening. But only drink what you KNOW you can handle. Don’t be the girl dancing with their top off on the bar and tripping over herself. So know your limits. Isn’t it better to remember the evening anyway, and not be in any photos that could be used against you as blackmail?
BODY LANGUAGE-this one covers a few things. Make sure you keep that gorgeous smile on your face, cross your legs when you sit, and don’t cross your arms. This shows your open, and it allows all your admirers to relax a bit to build the courage to say hello. Don’t cause a scene, no matter how many times the waitress gets your order wrong, and remember proper body language on the dance floor. Feel free to dance your booty off, but whatever you do, don’t dive into the splits on the floor and start popping your booty, or grinding on another dude you don’t know while your skirt rides up to expose your pretty lacey undies. Remember; show your class not your ass.
Now let’s run this town LADIES!!!!